Note: Please do not take anything that I write as bragging, I am writing about my experiences and how they are turning out for me. They are in no way shape or form meant to be prideful, but are meant to maybe help somebody else who is having a tough time. If you have more questions about what you read feel free to email me.
I’m not a natural born leader by any stretch of the imagination, but about two years ago, prior to getting married, I realized that in order for this relationship, the one that I have with my wife, to work I would have to learn how to be a leader. I have never been the outgoing type, and to be honest, with most things, I was perfectly fine sitting back and letting whatever happens happen. I’m not able to be that person that just sits back if I want the relationship to grow, flourish, or whatever word like that, that you want to use.
To me, leadership, is defining a direction and providing a path towards it. This usually means setting goals, where do I want to be x years from now? Leadership is also acting on the goals and working towards them, anybody can set goals, but initiatives have to be made in order to achieve those goals. Back to the relationship between my wife and I, in the beginning of our marriage, and even before it, we talked about what marriage was to us and what we wanted it to be, we pulled in experiences from our parents and others around us and we built a plan for what we wanted ours to be like. This was us setting goals. Now that we had a plan, nothing is going to get done with it unless somebody takes the initiative and moves in a direction that would help us achieve the goals. This is the job of the leader.
As I said earlier, I was never interested in being a leader when I was growing up, I was content with letting whatever was going to happen, happen. Now that I am moving on with life and have goals that take work to achieve, I can’t afford to sit back and let whatever happens, happen. Some times I fail at the goals that I set, and some times I achieve them, but that just means that I need to work harder. I have a lot to learn and it is going to be a life-long learning process but it is something that I am willing to do.
I think sometimes, we drop the ball, in the leadership department. God calls all men to be leaders in our homes. This is the reason that I am working my tail off to learn how to become a leader. Sometimes I wonder if more men stepped up and led their family, with the right motivations, would we see a decrease in the amount of marriages that end in divorce? Not just that, but the marriages that stay together would flourish and see blessings that they never expected.
I’ve got a lot of thoughts on being a leader in today’s culture, they’re all still a little jumbled but I might write on them a little more in the future. Thanks for reading and feel free to comment on the thoughts.
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The past couple of days I have been looking through some old entries in my Life Journal and noticed that as of this very minute (March 10th @ 6:54 AM) I’ve been life journaling for a year. It is a bit of a milestone for me, I’ll explain a little bit why.
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